Facts of the Matter

A weekly letter of encouragement and challenge to business and professional men and women
Wednesday, December 16, 1998
Dear Colleagues,


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Good Morning!

Where did we go wrong?  Isn’t that the question you are asking yourself if you have offspring who are giving you fits?  Kids grow up, make their own decisions, some of which are disastrous.  Like us they are sinners, perfectly capable of rebelliously going their own way.  In a society where everyone is blaming someone else and refusing to take responsibility for their own actions, don’t fall prey to unfounded accusations. 

If you are struggling with a difficult situation with your teen  or young adult here are a few words of encouragement and advice:+

  • Realize you are not alone. Other parents have similar experiences. Most important, remember that God is with you (Isa. 41:10,13).
  • Find a few trusted friends to share your concerns and pain. Don’t hide them, or put on an everything is okay front (Prov. 17:17).
  • You are not obligated to explain your family situation to everyone. If curious people probe, merely ask them to pray (Prov. 10:19).
  • If you know you have sinned against one or your children or treated them badly, confess it to them and to God, asking their forgiveness (Prov. 28:13).
  • Hold them accountable for their actions. God does (Prov. 20:11).
  • Refuse to feel guilty or ashamed. Don’t let your children lay guilt upon you when know you served God and them with integrity.
  • Love them deeply. Be there for them, but don’t always rescue (Lk. 15:11-32).
  • Wait and pray.  God is a God of patience and hope. Wait for them to respond. In most cases there will be reconciliation (Rm. 12:12; 5:3-5)
  • Keep going and keep ministering. One of Satan’s tactics to attack our family (Rom. 11:29; Prov. 24:10).
  • Submit yourself to God’s sovereignty, both in your life and in the lives of your children  (Rom. 8:28,29).           

Keep in mind that God’s children, too, rebelled:  “…The Lord has spoken: ‘I reared children and brought them up, but they have rebelled against Me’”(Isa. 1:2 )


My prayer is that you are having a great week!

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