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Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Dear Colleagues,

FIVE PRINCIPLES THAT TOOK OUR MARRIAGE FROM GOOD TO GREAT: (Part 2 of 4)

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3)  We were committed to the same purpose and calling in life:

We understood the importance of Scripture like Amos 3:3: Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? From before we met, we shared a common passion and calling:  To participate with God in advancing his kingdom and bringing him glory. For us that meant (1) Evangelizing:  Winning the lost: [Jesus] said to them, "Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation.  (Mark 16:15), and (2) Discipleship: Helping followers of Christ reach spiritual maturity:  Go make disciples of all nations…  (Matt. 28:19)

We understood that marriage was not primarily about us, but about giving our lives to God in sacrificial service to others:  Jesus:  "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.  (Lk. 9:23, 24)

We understood that Ruths calling as my wife, and one flesh with me, was to partner with me (as Eve was called to do with Adam) in fulfilling Gods call upon my life.  The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of itThe LORD God said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable (adaptable, complimentary) for him (Gen. 2:15, 18) (See Gen. 2:20, 24; Eph. 5:23, 31)

We were clear on our biblical roles as husband and wife:

My role as Ruths husband was to

  Provide for the family: If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.  (I Tim. 5:8)

  Provide leadership for Ruth:  Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything (Eph. 5:22-24)

  Love Ruth:  Husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (Eph 5:28, 29 NKJV)

Ruths role as my wife was to:

  Submit to me: Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything  (Eph. 5:22-24)

  Honor me: Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. (Eph. 5:33b- Amp.)

 

  Make the home a primary focus:  The older women likewise [are to admonish] the young women [to be} homemakers (Tit. 2:3-5 selected)

 

 

APPLICATION QUESTION:  If you and your spouse are not on the same page, purpose-wise, what steps do you need to take to begin moving in the same direction? One suggestion: Set a time within the next 2, 3 weeks where you can discuss the question of a common purpose and calling in light of Scriptural imperatives, such as Matthew 28:18-20

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