A word of caution: As you proceed through these questions with each other, keep in mind that the tongue has the power of life and death (Pro. 18:21) So choose and use your words carefully!
When do you find me most irresistibly attractive?
At the heart of many of the worlds love stories is an obstacle something that threatens to keep the lovers apart. What have been our obstacles? Have they increased or decreased our passion for one another?
Excluding touch, what is it about me that brings you the most pleasure?
Researchers believe that a primary cause of stress is things left incomplete in a persons life the more things left incomplete, the more stress. What are the incompletes in our life together that are causing you stress?
Where do we need more originality in our marriage? In what ways could this add sparkle and jazz?
If you were to write one golden rule for a happy, healthy marriage, what would this rule be?
Where are you most tempted to want to change me? Why? How does this impact our relationship?
What are at least three things that have a potential of becoming a wedge between us? In what ways can we protect our marriage from these wedges?
When do you feel most supported by me? When do you feel most respected by me?
When do you feel most listened to by me? Describe a recent time when you felt this. When do you feel least listened to by me?
When do you feel most cherished by me? When is it that you feel least cherish by me?
What are three things you need to hear me express more often?
How do we establish priorities for our marriage? What are your top five priorities for us?
What is the greatest rival you have to fend off to attain the kind of loving relationship with me you
What are your expectations about a marriage partner that I am not fulfilling? In what ways are these expectations realistic or unrealistic? How essential are they to having a happy, fulfilling marriage?
+Questions drawn from 201 Great Questions for Married Couples, Jerry D. Jones, NavPress